Highly sensitive strong-willed – gem [Blog]

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Foto credits: Dionne de Bruin

Blog 9-04-2023



Gem

Sometimes you come across a coachee, that is a real gem.
Mimi is one of those. 17 years old.
Gorgeous, wraps everyone around her finger with her charm, looks and enchanting smile, super-sensitive, senses everything, knows how to use her energies.
She really has a wonderful energy: pure power combined with an overwhelming inner light and unimaginable love.
Her honesty and openness towards me is blissful; she really tells me everything she experiences, without any restriction or embarrassment, and has to laugh heartily when I confront her with the less charming aspects of her behavior. Her self-reflection is perfect.
Disarming.

In the time I get to coach her, from the age of 15, she grows from tearful adolescent to self-aware young lady.
Crying adolescent, because only mother really understands her and she really hates the world around her, especially school.
So the only way she can make it known that she doesn’t want something is to start crying.
She has learned that that is the only way she will be taken seriously.



Intense

Mimi has 2 extremes. Positive or negative. And she experiences these sides very intensely.
Sometimes she can explode with anger, shut herself off completely from the outside world when things don’t go her way, burst into tears, or she just lies in bed feeling exhausted. Then nothing works anymore and all of life seems to be against her.
And other moments (because she can really change at any moment) she can overflow with love and gratitude or bounce around with an energy that is almost uncontrollable, then she sees possibilities everywhere and is in an enormous flow. Then everything works and everything is along for the ride.

She is of the new generation of ‘highly sensitive strong-willed’ children.
Spirited lady, full of fire.
I like.



Rixt, her horse – and energy

Mimi has a horse of her own. Rixt. A gelding, a year and a half old. What a power. Just like Mimi herself.
Mimi has had a strong love for horses since a young age. And she can do anything with them. Intuitively. She has the gift of making deep connections with horses.
“If I put my hands on a horse’s back,” says Mimi, ”I can feel exactly where he is in pain.”
This is the new generation of children.
She is already much further along than me, with energy awareness, but I can give words to what she is experiencing, and teach her how to consciously deal with it, what she can do when a horse is in pain, how to measure energy, and influence people, animals and spaces, by consciously and purposefully channeling her energy.

In our coaching sessions, we make extensive use of Rixt, her horse.
Through this she learns to manage her own energy, because her own energy has a direct influence on what happens in her outside world.



Bloody cranky

Today Mimi is bloody cranky.
When we arrive, Coachdog Jet and I, we are not greeted enthusiastically and warmly at the door by her like she used to do.
Mother lets us in.
Mimi is sitting at the table. Her hoodie has been pulled all the way over her head.
She does not look at me.
I feel she is boiling with anger.

I get a cup of tea from mother and we join Mimi at the table.
Mother and I chat for a while. I ask her what is going on. Mother doesn’t know either.

I ask Mimi if we are going to see Rixt.
Because I know her heart always overflows with love when she sees Rixt galloping towards her as soon as he catches sight of her.
“No.”
“No????” I ask shocked, ”why????”
“Rixt doesn’t listen to me” says Mimi irritated. With fiery eyes she looks at me. “He doesn’t do what I say. He runs away and doesn’t come to me.”
I ask her what happened.
She explains that she wanted to teach him all these tricks, but he refused and ran away.
“How was your energy?” I asked.
“I was cranky. I wanted him to listen and do what I wanted. I got angrier and angrier as a result.”

“Do you always do what someone else wants?”
“No,” she says.
“Would you want to be with you if you were Rixt and you were so grumpy?”
“No, definitely not,” Mimi chuckles.

We take the car to Rixt. Jet sits on top of her lap, she loves Mimi dearly and vice versa.
Indeed, Rixt stays in the back of the field.
On the spot we do energetic exercises: grounding, heart-opening, changing thoughts, pranayama (conscious breathing).
Unbelievable how clearly she can feel energies. She immediately notices that her energy begins to flow again.

Out of nowhere, Rixt stands next to her and lays his head on her shoulder.



Self-Conscious

Meanwhile, Mimi has grown from tearful adolescent to self-aware beautiful young lady, who knows and follows what she wants.
The ups and downs remain intense; after all, she is highly sensitive strong-willed, and thus came to earth to experience them intensely.
But she can now manage those ups and downs better.


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